The Neoteric Mother
“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” ~Rajneesh
For many, thoughts of motherhood inspire visions of tenderness and laughter. But those who are mothers know it is utterly invasive. Becoming a mother is a force in and of itself. It overwhelms every part of your existence, becoming your focal point, your purpose. It changes your body, your thoughts and your patterns. Nothing escapes the transformational force of motherhood. Resistance is futile and is in direct opposition to your feminine strengths. Women are made to ebb and flow; we flower, we change. To facilitate this change, a full evaluation is needed; a self-intercession of sorts. Allow me to present a model of The Neoteric Mother.
A mother’s happiness should come first. It’s not selfish. It is essential.
The Neoteric Mother designs her life just as she wants it. She structures every aspect of her inner and outer world to reflect love, growth and joy. She understands that each infinitesimal detail of her environment and her thoughts shape her and her child’s life. She is acutely aware that her environment includes her body, the physical spaces she inhabits, as well as her mental habitat. She chooses relationships that maker her feel alive and that dare her to dream of meeting her heart’s longing.
The Neoteric Necessities:
*Your living environment should be uncluttered & promote creativity. A cluttered environment speaks of resistance to releasing the old. When we have resistance, we are not open to new possibilities. Let go of what no longer serves you positively and let it serve someone else. Develop your living space so that it fosters an unquantifiable inspiration within you. As women, we are the infinite creators. We exist to create. We create to exist. What does your environment inspire you to create?
*Treat your body like it is worthy of reverence. A woman’s body has been worshiped, for ages, by men and women alike. Our body is sacred and nothing short of a miracle. Treat it that way. For most of us, we will need to relearn most of what we’ve been taught to understand how to care for ourselves. Our physical embodiment is the vehicle that carries us through life. We spend all of our time in it. It is through our body that we experience every thought, touch, smell, taste and site. Nothing happens outside of it. If it’s up to you, and it is, why would you want to have anything short of the best experience you can, in this life…in this body?
*Cultivate relationships that inspire & strengthen you. It has been said that you are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you’re in an unhappy relationship, having a child is the best motivator that exists for either working to better that devitalizing bond or to release it fully. I’m not condoning single-motherhood, it’s arduous. But I am saying that bond that you have with your significant other will directly affect how your child develops, what physiological habits they collect, how they treat themselves as they develop and how they will treat their partner, in the future. These influences will stay with them for a lifetime. Choose your companions carefully; they will affect your life and your child’s life indefinitely.
*Every woman must have a purpose outside of being a mom. Being a mother is centered around your children. They are people who have their own minds, their own bodies, their own journeys and experiences to take part in. Centering your life around your child’s will not make them stronger or more privileged. It, in fact, will do the opposite.
The best way to strengthen those around you is to confidently walk in the direction of your dreams; to “risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.” And, it is written, your children will do the same.
